Musings on Community
One puzzles over the question of time and energy. The devotion of time for others is a struggle. It is usually cast in terms of the most false morality and a singular disconnect from the realities of the world in which we live. False myths. These mummies who haunt our society. they justify their role in terms of the ordering of society and yet the order of society seeks to preserve privilege and pass on poverty. In striving to keep what is ours, we balk at any change — we hesitate to learn — we anathamize what is not aclimatized. We concretize that which would lead us to truth and in so doing, we create a rotting corpse of the truth; a corpse that might be preserved for a time, but is eventually incapable of being that which it was.
So, all this becomes a block for the connection between people. The community we crave and from which arose the myths we mummify, stands beyond our reach through the agents of hypocrisy and dogmatism.
And yet the truth struggles for breath through the musty wraps of fear that bind the dead to keep them from disrupting the privileges of the living. Gasping and reaching for the hope, love and joy that comes from a life lived with reverence for the past, love of the present, open hope for the future and an honest care for the community.
When it comes to community, I am wary. I fear being open to a community that disappoints me. I have borne so many disappointments. How can one be open to a community and yet maintain boundaries?
The boundaries are the tricky bits. How can I drive or be the change I want to see in the world? The difficulty sits in the nexus of an expectation or impatience for change and the limitations set by time and available resources. Given the limits of time, how can one set expectations of a community?
And what are those expectations? What are the limits of selfless acts versus the realities of quid pro quo? If limits and expectations are not clear, confusion and disappointment result. Why am I so inexperienced at clearly articulating these boundaries and expectations?
Fear. Fear of losing an opportunity for achieving some good due to encountering hard limits. There is also the fear of not living up to high standards. In the first, we find an aversion to setting boundaries because soft boundaries can be manipulated for profit. In the second, softly articulated standards can leave room for interpretation and this can leave an opportunity for excellence by changing the standard after the fact.
So, I reflect on the question of boundaries with a nod to Terminus. We need these boundaries. In ancient Rome, we needed Terminus to maintain the good fences that make good neighbors. In our lives today, we also need boundaries of expectation and commitment to maintain communities and develop ourselves and our society.
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